Tuesday, April 20, 2010
I am So Blown
So, I learned some new information over the weekend that was very disturbing to me. I have to blog about it. The people in this post shall remain nameless, but I will use aliases. I visited the home of a woman I have known for quite some time. It was a small gathering. “Reese” has a new man in her life. Good for her. She would refer to the previous man she was dating as her booty call (and she was his booty call). Since I am a Christian, I don’t condone pre-marital sex in my relationships, so I was not thrilled about this information. But that’s her life. Anyway, the old man called her home while the new man was there. Instead of telling the guy that he is no longer needed, she pacified him. “Pat”, her sister, who was also there said, “You don’t have to answer to him. Tell him to go to home to his wife.” I was suddenly a deer in headlights. “He’s married?” “Oops!!”, “Pat” said. I said to “Reese”, “You were “dating” a married man?” She said, “So, “Ralph” was married too.” She said it in the most nonchalant manner. Ralph is this married guy she “dated” way back when and had his child. This is a sad situation because the person who has suffered from that relationship is the child. This guy never owned up to this responsibility; thus, the child grew up without his natural father. In fact, a few years ago Ralph showed up at a funeral we had to attend. Everyone, including myself, said hi to him. Reese’s son turns to me and asked, “Who’s that?” I said, “That’s your father.” Sad, right? So anyway, “Reese” is recently divorced due to her ex-husband of 14 years having an affair. Of course she was pissed and hurt. I would have been too. But how can “Reese” get mad at the mistress of her ex-husband when she was/is doing the same thing? I was genuinely shocked after this all sank in. There are certain things you just don’t expect certain people to do. I didn’t see this one coming. I also recalled what Steve Harvey said about men who cheat. He said men cheat because there are women out there who are willing to cheat with them. That is so true. And does she care about how her son views her? I’m a single mother with a 4-year old, impressionable son. As children grow up and become smarter and wiser, they begin to notice certain behaviors that people adopt. I would not put myself in a situation where my son would question my morals and view me as a home wrecker, ho, or the like. Think about how this can affect a child. Anyway, I hope she stops being a mistress because we all reap what we sow. Some people call it karma, but the bible is clear on the sowing and reaping process.